ELCA Statement on Human Sexuality

My national church organization recently met and, among other actions, voted on a long-awaited Statement on Human Sexuality. It's a long--and very interesting--document and it included several special key resolutions. Here's the two BIGGIES. They both passed, though the debate was long and the passing vote was not a landslide:

“Resolved that the ECA commit itself to finding ways to allow congregations that choose to do so to recognize, support, and hold publicly accountable life-long, monogamous, same-gender relationships."

“Resolved, that the ELCA commit itself to finding a way for people in such publicly accountable, lifelong, monogamous, same-gender relationships to serve as rostered leaders of this church.”

Amen.

The Salt Lick; or, Why Life is Funny

Mmmmmm. Excuse me. I'm still thinking about brisket....and blackberry cobbler....

My first trip to The Salt Lick in Driftwood, TX was back in the 1990s. I was living in Indiana and had flown to San Antonio to visit my best high school pal Leila. I know it was a long time ago because I only had one baby and she *only* had four! We hopped in the car one morning and took a memorable drive to visit the old TX missions outside of San Antonio. From there we took the back way through the Hill Coutnry to tiny Driftwood TX to eat the Best Damn BBQ Ever. The old stone building had a huge fire pit just inside the door and the hole place smelled like wood smoke. Leila gently mocked me for wanting to order bbq chicken when we got there, but frankly I was suspicious of this thing called brisket. Long story short: she ordered, we ate, I never forgot it.

Why life is funny: It's a dozen years later and I now LIVE in Texas with my hubby and two kids! And Leila does NOT live here! And I have just taken my best college pal Nancy (who lives in PITTSBURGH with her excellent husband Mike!) on their virgin trip to The Driftwood. My husband and the babies came along ... our teenager even brought her boyfriend.

To my heart--and my nose--this trip was mere days after my first visit to The Salt Lick with Leila. I do feel different than I did in my late twenties when I was last here--I'm calmer now, more level, more contented than I have ever been. But do I feel OLDER? No. Do I feel like twelve years have passed? No. I don't understand time. I don't think I ever will.

But here's what I know for certain:
Life is an amazing and unexpected journey, folks. And along the way, there's great friends, wonderful loves, beautiful babies, AND bbq!

40

I turned forty a couple of weeks ago. Now that I've adjusted to the idea, I have this to report about being out of my thirties.

40 Things About Being 40

1. I live with my best friend.
2. I am in love.
3. My kids are funny and smart and a blast to hang out with.
4. I love my job.
5. I think I really have something to teach my students.
6. I have never cared less about what other people think of me.
7. I have to get up in the middle of the night to pee.
8. I am really, really educated.
9. There's so much I don't know.
10. I'm saved by the grace of God.
11. I finally think I know what "saved" means.
12. I will never have more babies.
13. I don't know how to flat iron my hair and will never learn.
14. I'm old enough for eighties fashion to have become cool again
15. I'm not too old to like cool new music.
16. I remember when we got our first microwave oven.
17. I remember when there were no personal computers.
18. I remember when there were only three channels on TV.
19. I remember when we had rotary telephone dials.
20. I get to hang out with artists for a living.
21. I make art.
22. I don't work in a cubicle.
23. I finally bought myself the dog I want.
24. I still haven't bought myself the car I want.
25. I have some gray hair.
26. I don't have wrinkles.
27. I can't remember the last time I drank alcohol.
28. I was absolutely right about how little math I would need to be a functioning adult.
29. I'm becoming lactose intolerant.
30. I can be deeply patient with people I love.
31. I can feel sincere compassion and love for people I meet.
32. I have less of a sweet tooth than I used to.
33. I hate Wal-Mart.
34. I can light a charcoal grill fire.
35. I can mow the yard.
36. I cannot change a tire.
37. My 16 year old is way cooler than I was at 16.
38. I am way cooler than the 40 year olds I knew when I was 16.
39. I don't think my personal coolness has yet peaked.
40. I am full of hope.

I followed a facebook game to do the following:

Think quick! List your top 15 films. Don't take too long to think about it. Fifteen movies you've seen that will always stick with you. First fifteen you can recall in no more than 15 minutes.

So here's my list:

I KNOW WHERE I'M GOING
My favorite film. Period. (nod to Laurie!)

APOLLO 13
I just eat up this celebration of ingenuity, technology, team work, and real heroism.

SOME LIKE IT HOT
Funniest film ever made.

THE GODFATHER
One of my favorite American tragedies.

QUIZ SHOW
My other favorite American tragedy!.

SPIRITED AWAY
I think this is the prettiest animated film I've ever seen

SENSE AND SENSIBILITY
Oh,my! Jane Austen adapted by Emma Thompson and filmed by Ang Lee! Plus a romantic turn by Allan Rickman! Perfection!

THE REMAINS OF THE DAY
I am blue for about two days after every viewing of this beautiful story of duty, loneliness, and love. I always go back for more.

WHEN HARRY MET SALLY
Kemper and I went to the movies to see this about five times when we were dating. "... when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible."

GOSFORD PARK
Gorgeous. Funny. Heartbreaking. I watch it whenever I get the house to myself.

THE FUGITIVE
I don't know what it is about the this movie, but I can't resist it.

SPLASH
This is why I love Tom Hanks."All my life I've been waiting for someone and when I find her, she's... she's a fish."

THIS IS SPINAL TAP
This is the movie that frames my college life. We watched it so much we could recite whole scenes...and frequently did.

SIXTEEN CANDLES
My teen 1980s. Thank you, John Hughes.

GROUNDHOG DAY
This is a perfect little movie. Harold Ramis and Bill Murray usually make a misstep somewhere. But not this time!!